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NOM Outsmarted Me

Posted on: June 21, 2011

As I was aimlessly kicking around the Bloggernacle this morning I happened upon this post about using the National Organization for Marriage’s webform to send an email to New York legislators urging them to support same-sex marriage.

Now normally I wouldn’t consider using an organization’s website to send a message that’s the opposite of what they stand for because it’s, well, wrong. Maybe not as wrong as, say, denying people’s civil rights, but still wrong.

But then I saw how easy they made it.  You fill out one little form and it sends your letter to just about every person in the state of New York, plus your own state senator, which they figure out for you based on your zip code.  And the letter so readily lends itself to supporting same-sex marriage (my deletions in strikethrough and additions in bold)–

Dear [recipient],

I strongly urge you to oppose support the same-sex marriage bill if and when it comes up to a vote in the Senate.

Marriage isn’t about discrimination or exclusion, or just a package of government benefits (and occasional penalties). Throughout history, marriage has been a long-term, public, sexual union between a man and a woman. Why? Because these sexual unions are unique in their ability to produce children — even unintentionally in many cases.  Marriage is about forming committed, stable families — the foundation upon which a healthy society is built. 

Government has no business determining who I love — but it does have an interest in making sure that as many kids as possible get to know and be loved by their own mother and father. No same-sex union can do this for a child.  are well-cared for by loving parents. Same-sex marriage will create opportunities for more children to grow up in stable homes, especially those whose biological parents are unable to care for them. 

The threat to religious freedom — and the utter refusal of gay marriage groups to accept any substantive protections for people of faith — is another major concern. For years, gay marriage activists have argued under the banner of tolerance, but now want to silence any opposing views. Examples of religious groups being forced out of the public square have already begun to crop up as Catholic Charities across the country are forced to give up their adoption license, a religious group in New Jersey is denied tax exemption for refusing to recognize civil unions, and people   Many priests, pastors, and ministers are now barred from practicing their faith in performing marriages for their LGBT congregants. No person of faith should face professional sanction for their religious beliefs. And no one religious group should be able to impose its beliefs on another. 

Please, there are other ways to protect the legitimate needs of same-sex couples of churches whose beliefs preclude them from recognizing same-sex marriage.  They have the right to live as they choose, but not to redefine marriage for all of us. Please vote no yes on same-sex marriage.

So, yes, I gave into temptation and filled it out.

I didn’t really want NOM to have my contact info, but I also didn’t want to use a fake name or address, because it was a sincere message. I settled on leaving out a digit in my address. When I went to submit the email it caught the mistake and asked me to fix it.

Well… okay.

After I corrected my address it took me back to the page to preview my letter — where it now thanked me for registering and called me by name in big, bold letters —  and… uh oh, it had reverted back to the original version.  I was about to send a “vote no” letter to all those people!  I panicked and hit cancel (because, you know, if you don’t act fast it’ll just send itself), then futilely tried to see if there was a way to delete my shiny new NOM account, then got the heck out of there.

So there we are.  I didn’t send a letter to anybody, but now I’m on NOM’s mailing list.

That’s karma for you.


2 Responses to "NOM Outsmarted Me"

[…] hearty congratulations to New York! Despite well-organized sneakiness, love wins! Chris and Pablo give some historical perspective on how gay marriage became thinkable […]

That happened to me the first time I tried it too. I did it all over again with the corrected address and it went through.

PS I also only used it (and posted about it) because I didn’t see any of the pro-equality sites providing an email form for all the legislators. I usually wouldn’t do it either. 😀

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